The art world—particularly in genres like boudoir, pinup, fetish, and erotic photography—often carries an unfair misconception when it comes to male photographers. Stories of clients being manipulated or pressured by so-called “guys with cameras” fuel a reputation that casts a shadow on professionals who approach this art with respect, creativity, and integrity. For me, the issue hits close to home. An acquaintance I’ve known for nearly two decades recently insinuated that I hold ulterior motives in my photography, an irony since I distanced myself from him years prior because of his own predatory behavior toward women. His comment, while thoughtless and reflective of a deeply ignorant understanding of who I am, not as a photographer, but a human being, still stung. However, his accusation prompted some deeper through of the wider mistrust that some clients feel, often from stories of others who’ve had negative experiences with unscrupulous men behind the lens.
It’s no wonder women often feel this way. The intentions of a photographer are critical—especially in an industry where models and clients reveal so much of themselves, both physically and emotionally. This industry, marred by predatory amateurs and exploitative professionals, influences not only the comfort and safety of clients but also limits the creative freedom of sincere artists. For those dedicated to their craft, authenticity is a guiding principle; it is a commitment to honor the trust extended by others, a trust that allows true artistry to flourish. In an ideal world, a photographer’s camera should be a tool of empowerment, not a lens of exploitation.
Recognizing the “Guy with a Camera” Mentality
Unfortunately, the accessibility of photography today means that anyone with a camera can claim the title of “photographer.” This has led to a rise in so-called “guys with cameras” who often lack the integrity, skill, and professionalism the art demands, resulting in shoots that can feel uncomfortable—or even unsafe—for clients. Recognizing red flags is essential for protecting both personal comfort and creative standards in these situations.
Some common warning signs include poor communication—such as vagueness in responding to questions, inconsistency in messages, or delays that hint at a lack of organization and respect for time. Another major red flag is a lack of transparency around the project’s intentions. Photographers should be upfront about the purpose of the shoot, how the images will be used, and the overall creative vision; ambiguity in these areas can sometimes indicate inexperience—or worse, ulterior motives. Additionally, an inability or unwillingness to establish and respect boundaries is a significant warning sign. Whether it’s pressing for wardrobe choices that make the model uncomfortable, trying to extend the session without consent, or disregarding limits on physical contact and posing suggestions, a professional understands that respecting boundaries is fundamental to trust and artistry.
"Photography, when done right, is an act of mutual respect."
Since 2001, Terry Richardson has been accused multiple times of using his influence in the fashion industry to sexually exploit models during photo shoots, including coercing them to engage in sexual acts with him.
This behavior isn’t just inappropriate—it’s harmful. The lasting impact of an uncomfortable experience goes far beyond a single shoot, influencing the trust that clients place in male photographers in general. High-profile cases, like those of Terry Richardson or Robert Arnold Koester have highlighted how sexual exploitation within the industry is real, damaging not only individual reputations but the professional trustworthiness of male photographers as a whole. These high-profile stories reflect an all-too-real concern, and they drive me to hold myself to a higher standard, striving for an honest, safe, and creative environment for each client.
At its core, a reputable photographer values open communication, transparency, and respect—principles that transform a shoot into a space where the subject feels both empowered and understood. This holds true across all forms of human photography, whether it’s headshots, family portraits, intimate boudoir, erotic art, or even promotional content for professional courtesans and adult content creators. The photographer’s role is not merely to capture an image, but to honor the trust of those in front of the lens, recognizing that each frame tells a story beyond the visual. Without these essential elements, the very foundation of the craft crumbles, and the trust of the client—the soul of any creative endeavor—is put at risk. Photography, when done right, is an act of mutual respect, a shared experience that upholds the dignity of both the artist and the subject.
The Core of Professionalism in Photography
True artistry arises not from the lens alone, but from the connection between the artist and the subject, where trust and respect become the canvas for creativity.
Professionalism starts with recognizing that a client’s comfort, vision, and respect must always be the priority. With my experience in boudoir, erotic, and even more conceptual, darker forms of photography, I understand the depth of trust clients place in me to capture these intimate moments. This trust wasn’t something that appeared overnight—it’s something I’ve worked tirelessly to build, and just as diligently to maintain. My focus is always on creating an environment where my clients feel empowered to express their vision, rather than imposing my own. In this way, the work becomes a collaboration that honors their voice and their experience.
At the heart of every successful shoot is communication. Before any session, I take the time to openly discuss the vision and set clear expectations, ensuring that boundaries are not only acknowledged but fully respected. When clients feel safe, they are free to express themselves, allowing their creativity and beauty to shine through, ultimately producing images that reveal the depth of their character and vision. The core values of RavensTale—Authenticity, Empowerment, Collaboration, and Connection—serve as the foundation of my work, but it’s my personal values—Empathy, Compassion, Consent, and Professionalism—that truly guide how I live and approach my craft. It is through these principles that I can create a professional yet compassionate space, where the client’s comfort is paramount, and the result is always a meaningful, impactful image. True artistry arises not from the lens alone, but from the connection between the artist and the subject, where trust and respect become the canvas for creativity.
Addressing the Misinterpretation of Intentions
In any field that celebrates beauty or physicality, boundaries are of the utmost importance. I make it a point to separate the art of photography from personal attraction or involvement in my clients’ personal lives. My purpose is clear: I am here to capture their vision, not to blur lines or engage in anything beyond the creative process. I maintain a strong boundary between my professional and personal life, ensuring that trust is never compromised, especially for clients who may already feel vulnerable or apprehensive. To do otherwise would not only betray their trust but undermine the very foundation of my career, for true artistry can only flourish in a space where integrity and respect are upheld.
Misinterpretations are, unfortunately, inevitable. As a large man standing 6’3″ with a broad frame, my physical presence can easily be perceived as intimidating. In another life, I could easily be mistaken for a roughneck, biker, or football player. I understand how this can make some women, especially those for whom personal safety is a top priority, feel uneasy. Sometimes, it’s a careless comment—said with the best of intentions—but heard in a way that creates doubt. Other times, a moment of frustration, like struggling with a malfunctioning light, may cause someone to question my emotional state. This dynamic is something I’ve been aware of since my adolescent growth spurts, and it’s something I’ve worked hard to address. I’ve spent a lifetime exploring my own shadow, strengthening my character, and ensuring that those around me feel safe in my presence. Among my close female friends, this understanding is mutual and clear. However, I cannot expect someone I’ve only just met to innately grasp the depth of my character. To that end, I accept and embrace the idea that trust is built slowly, and it’s something I must earn, not assume.
"[W]hile I certainly appreciate positive attention, in the context of art, it is something that must be set aside—not only for professionalism’s sake, but also for the mutual understanding that the photographer’s comfort is often just as important as the client’s."
A truly horrible angle from one of my early shoots.
That’s not to say I haven’t had tense moments with clients. In the early days of learning photography, I was caught in the shadows of the Dunning-Kruger effect, convinced that I knew what I was doing—spoiler: I didn’t. While there were some shoots that didn’t go as planned, these moments were often compounded by the insecurities we all carry within us. Some clients would interpret certain shots through their own self-judgments, seeing flaws where there were none. This is where the Spotlight effect comes into play—the idea that we believe others notice our perceived flaws far more than they actually do. While I thought my clients looked great in the photos, and this was often echoed by those closest to them, I understood that we are often our own harshest critics. The negative feedback about angles, posing, and composition taught me an invaluable lesson: to approach each shoot with heightened sensitivity. It pushed me to dive deeper into how to bring out the best in everyone who steps in front of my lens. I came to realize that self-esteem and body perception shape how clients see their images, and I’ve adapted by continually improving my understanding of posing and composition. Now, I focus on guiding my clients into poses that empower them—ones that make them feel confident, comfortable, and truly seen.
On the other side of misinterpreting intentions, I once had a client become overtly flirtatious during a shoot. While it was flattering, it wasn’t the right time or place. I responded by gently but firmly steering the focus back to our work. Despite my efforts, the distraction was palpable, and it ultimately affected the final images. Maintaining professionalism in these moments is never easy, but it is essential. Part of building and maintaining trust with clients is ensuring they feel confident in my intentions, which is crucial not only for our relationship but for upholding the trustworthiness of the industry at large. As a cisgender, heterosexual male, while I certainly appreciate positive attention, in the context of art, it is something that must be set aside—not only for professionalism’s sake, but also for the mutual understanding that the photographer’s comfort is just as important as the client’s.
Why Values Matter
Photography is more than just a job for me—it’s a deep, unwavering passion and a long-term career path that I’ve committed to with purpose. It doesn’t feel like work. Sixteen hour days spent shooting and editing do not feel like wasted time to me. With that in mind, it’s easy to understand that for me, this journey comes with a responsibility to uphold a reputation built on trust, respect, and a dedication to the craft. It’s about far more than capturing a moment; it’s about creating work that resonates, evokes emotion, and leaves a lasting impact. The true fulfillment comes from knowing that the images I create empower and celebrate my clients, allowing them to see themselves in new and positive ways, or to further personal goals and aspirations. It’s an incredibly rewarding experience to witness that transformation.
Over time, I’ve built lasting relationships based on professionalism and mutual respect—relationships that not only enrich my work but lead to referrals, recurring collaborations, and even new friendships. The rapport I nurture with each individual is an essential part of my practice, and it’s in those deeper connections that the most meaningful work often emerges.
Ultimately, I view myself not as a director but as a collaborator in the art that my clients envision. Every portrait, boudoir, and art project is a co-created journey, a fusion of my technical skills and the vision that the client brings to the table. For anyone interested in exploring these forms of expression, I welcome you to reach out or explore my portfolio. Through the lens of respect, empathy, and authenticity, I strive to create more than just photographs—I aim to capture the essence of who my clients are and the stories they wish to tell. By upholding these values, I hope not only to create striking, genuine imagery but to open new doors for creative self-expression, fostering an environment where both the artist and the subject feel truly seen. Art is not just about what is captured, but about the trust and connection that make the work meaningful, and it’s this trust that allows creativity to flourish in ways that transcend the ordinary.
